Father David’s Letter

Dear Friends in Christ,

Last Sunday I shared with you during my homily about my niece Maria and her husband James losing their baby during the week.  It had been such a roller coaster of a few days, and at the time Mass rolled around on Saturday my emotions were particularly raw and spent, having just prior to Mass seen pictures of little lifeless Mary Joseph being so tenderly and lovingly held by her sorrowing parents and grandmother.  Whenever my emotions run high and raw as they did last weekend, I try hard to contain them so that I can perform my liturgical role well and present strength to you as your shepherd and spiritual father, as you need and deserve.  But this last week was exceptionally difficult to do that, the pain having struck so close to home.

Again, on behalf of my entire family I extend my heartfelt gratitude to all of you for your condolences, prayers, and support for my family during this time of grief.  I let them know that so many of you are lifting them up in prayer, and I know they are appreciative.  They had a simple funeral service for little Mary this week, and although I couldn’t be there I’m sure it was a heart-wrenching but beautiful and hopeful moment.  Little Mary is now with her Lord and will wait for the rest of us to see her smiling face one day.

My mom has told me how my Aunt Trudy, who died almost thirty years ago from leukemia, once had a miscarriage.  Her loss came after she had two children.  The nurse who came to help my aunt told her something like “well you already have two children.”  I am sure that nurse was trying to console my aunt by drawing the focus to the two blessings that she already had, but the nurse’s words did not have that effect on my aunt.  Quite to the contrary, Aunt Trudy found them very insensitive and was hurt by them.  Couple this with the fact that during that era miscarriages were not talked about as openly as they are today and there weren’t all the resources and support groups for grieving mothers and families, and the result was an extremely trying time for my aunt as she felt little support and suffered largely in silence.  She of course had loving support from my dad and mom (her sister) and a few others, but not like things generally are today.

It is good that times have changed in this way, that we as a society are more sensitive to the loss of babies that are miscarried or even stillborn, regardless of how less or more developed they are.   We treat them as they truly are, real live babies, and not just “blobs of tissue.”  And we recognize that expecting mothers bond deeply with their unborn babies in profound ways that only other mothers can fully relate to and understand.  Yet, as my sister Shari said, even though she had miscarried multiple times, never had she had to deliver a lifeless baby that actually looked like a baby.  Hence a more intense grief than ever before engulfed her, as it did all of us in the family.

This whole traumatic experience has demonstrated yet again just how precious every life is, no matter how old or young.  If Maria and James are blessed with children in the future, you better believe even in their newfound joy they will never ever forget little Mary Joseph!  There is no such thing as “out of sight, out of mind” in matters like these.

In conclusion, I am prompted to quote the great Dr. Seuss from his classic book Horton Hears a Who:

“A Person is a Person, no matter how small.”

Blessings to All of You,

Fr. David



Post Covid -19 Mass Directives

Restrictions for Mass attendance have been lifted. Even if  you have been vaccinated, you are   required to wear a mask. Social distance parameters have also been removed. Hand sanitizer is still available at church entrances for your continued use.

The dispensation for Mass attendance has also been removed. If you still feel uncomfortable to attend Mass, the weekend Mass is still available on St. Mary’s Facebook page and also still being broadcast for you to attend in your car on radio station FM90.3. You can then receive the Eucharist after Mass.

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